Within the past month, friends and clients have reached out to me, asking for help in getting a handle on what is happening in their lives. Some are facing devastating illness, job loss, relationship breakups, homelessness, and depression that is always found loitering in the shadows.
“Why is this happening?” they ask. “I’m a good person, I try to do the right thing, why is the Universe hell-bent on destroying my life?” I understand their frustration. I have felt it myself. For me, the difference between the aggravation of negative events and the manifestation of new, positive experiences is this: my understanding of Universal Laws.
When you are going through difficult times, it can be difficult to take this thought in, but here it goes: The Universe is always working on your behalf. This is true and very easy to believe if you are “in the zone” and having everything go your way, but it becomes difficult to believe when you are in the trenches. Let me say it again and allow it to sink in …the Universe is always working on your behalf.
No one ever said life would be easy and free of challenges. From endless opportunities for growth and paying off karmic debt, the Universe is always providing us with opportunities to expand and manifest positive change.
I used to live a life of “why me?” Now I live a “why not me?” life. I once viewed the “bad” things I encountered as punishments, and now I see these incidents as a way to bring enlightenment to my being. My state of worry about everything that could/should/would go wrong has been replaced with switching the focus to what I want, rather than what I do not want. When negative things do come my way, I view them as opportunities to become stronger. I get it…the Universe loves me, wants what is best for me and has great plans for my future.
I once was in a marriage where I felt unloved. I thought my husband wanted me only for what I could do for him, never appreciating me for the person I was becoming. As the years went on, I tried to win his attention by doing more and more. That only left me exhausted and on an ever-ending treadmill of “never enough,” never winning the prize of his love. It seemed the more I did, the more he wanted from me; it felt like I was playing a game that I could never win.
I was getting sicker and sicker as each year passed and he seemed to be getting less and less happy. I was crazed with desire as how to save our marriage and my health. “God, help me turn things around,” I pleaded. Why was the Universe letting this happen? I was a good person, I never cheated on him, I tried to be there when he needed me, I worked at our business, created a business of my own, took on temporary jobs to keep money flowing. I took care of our kids and nursed his parents through terminal illnesses. Why did he withhold his love and attention? Universe, please do something!
It wasn’t until I began to see another perspective that my world began to change. I realized there was never going to be anything I could do to make him love me. It was a sad realization, but I knew I had to let go. First, I had to comprehend that he simply didn’t have the capability to love me, as I needed to be love. He was driven by money. Once during counseling, we were asked to state the most important thing in our life. My answer – family. His answer – money. Our priorities were very, very different. “Let go and let God,” kept playing in my head.
I began to see the situation with new eyes. Did I really want a man who treated me like this and valued a bank account more than his wife? Maybe the Universe wasn’t helping me keep a grasp on to my marriage because it was advising me to say goodbye. I had been asking for Universal help in holding on to something that was killing me. Remember, the Universe is always working on our behalf.
As I planned my departure, I found a job marketing a local franchise and continued to ask for Universal help. “Please help me,” I would pray…eventually realizing it was probably hard to get help if I didn’t know what I wanted. Vagueness is not a partner in Universal manifestations. “Help me to get through this divorce with honor and fairness. Please help me fight a fair fight.” As things progressed, it was almost like Satan himself was working on my husband’s team. I was becoming paralyzed with fear…I turned to the Universe for help moving forward.
I asked the Universe to help me overcome my fear. Long story short… this mantra popped into my head: “Satan! You want a piece of me? Bring it on!” It may sound silly, but I said it all day long… and it worked. Standing up to a bully, whether in person, or practicing in front of the bathroom mirror, it lessened my fears and slowly filled me with strength and hope. Ultimately. we settled out of court, but it was empowering to know I could have done it…the strength that comes with taking the Universe as your partner.
Now, I was on to build a new life! I was meant to be a married woman; my zodiac sign is cancer – I am a woman who loves family. I began a prayer to manifest the right man to come into my world. My prayer was simple and direct. “God, please send me the most wonderful man (meaning for me.) I get it now; I deserve the most wonderful man. I think he is out there and I think he is looking for me. Please bring us together and when he sees me, let him know it is me.”
If you notice how I worded it, what I did not say is almost as powerful as what I did say. I did not state his height, wealth, education, ethnic diversity, nothing but “the most wonderful man for me.” I knew the Universe was all-knowing, filled with goodness, and always has my best interest at heart, so I decided to get out of its way. The ending part, “when he sees me, let him know it is me,” was placed there because I didn’t want to play games. Either he would like me right away or we would know there was no chemistry.
Four days after meeting my future, “all new and improved lemon-fresh,” husband, he pulled me aside and said, “We’re going to spend the rest of our lives together, aren’t’ we?” I knew it was true, and we are coming up on our 7th anniversary! I did get the most wonderful man for me: handsome, smart, funny and as devoted to God as I am. Allowing the Universe to choose for me proved to be a key ingredient. I recognized the gift…I was starting to get pretty good at this manifestation thing. Sometimes our manifestations may arrive in a package vastly different than we imagined. It is our job to be open to all possibilities and to never forget that the Universe is always working on our behalf.
During the divorce, I lost my job and was taken off our health insurance plan. I had to sign up with Cobra to the tune of over $500 a month…a hefty amount for a person with no income. Manifesting health insurance became a top priority.
Fast forward to my new life: my wonderful new husband is on permanent disability as a result of his military service (combat medic in Vietnam). When we married, I became eligible for FREE health insurance and FREE medical care as part of his benefits. I now go to the VA hospital and if they can’t do a certain procedure or test, I am sent to a neighboring hospital for more free medical care. I couldn’t believe it; I never saw this coming – a wonderful, loving husband and free health care. God is so good.
Two months after I began my health care with the VA, I was diagnosed with deadly melanoma – yes, the word “deadly” was on my paperwork. I had immediate treatment to surgically remove the mole. Three months later I was diagnosed cancer free…this without chemo or radiation. My oncologist said to me, “Mrs. Adair, you are a very lucky woman,” to which I answered, “I’m not lucky, I am blessed.”
The Universal Law of Manifestation is similar to the Law of Attraction but from my vantage point, more effective. You don’t do the work of manifestation alone. You work in partnership with the Universe, God, the Angels, and your Inner Power…whatever you call your Divinity. It is a partnership.
You must be clear about what you want (I wanted to find my true love), and you must take action. Let me say this again, YOU MUST TAKE ACTION. I took the action to free myself from the bonds of a bad relationship, and then took time to heal.
Here are some insights that have guided me on this path to dream manifestation. Figure out what you really want. A new job? A place to live where you feel safe? Find your soul mate? Let the Universe find that job you don’t even know exists. Maybe that “not so perfect” date you went out with will be the missing link to your future soul mate. Be open to new possibilities.
Take action. Don’t sit around waiting for something to happen…do something positive to get the energy flowing. Depressed? Call someone to see how they are doing. Need a job? Help someone else with his or her resume. Want to meet someone special? Be a matchmaker for your friends, host a party and invite people to lunch… do something to help others and the Universe will make your dreams come true.
Be patient. Manifestations are on Universal time. You may need the perfect “fill in the blank” now, but the Universe knows best. Maybe you require lessons for the future that may lead you to what you really want. Believe me, I have experienced many things that I wished, at that time I did not have to experience. From taking on a menial job, to not having the funds to pay a bill…I have learned much from these experiences and they have made me grow and mature. From difficulties we are given the gift of discernment and strength. I have cried tears of disappointment that quickly turned to tears of joy when I allowed the Universe to intervene.
Be grateful, be thankful…the Universe never ceases to amaze. I get down on my knees every night and thank God for this amazing life.
Count your blessings every day and the blessings will keep flowing. Follow these simple steps, trust in the goodness of The Universe and remember, it is always working on your behalf.